Dating is miserable

[Tiduwho]

Well, I talked to that girl over the weekend and we were supposed to go out tonight. I just cancelled on her though, because I'm that under the weather. This pretty well sucks.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

Well, I talked to that girl over the weekend and we were supposed to go out tonight. I just cancelled on her though, because I'm that under the weather. This pretty well sucks.

Ha Ha good luck talking to her ever again.

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Ha Ha good luck talking to her ever again.

Do girls believe it when guys say stuff like that?

[Haiku Jimi]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Ha Ha good luck talking to her ever again.

If a girl stops picking up my phonecalls because I had to cancel a date on account of me being sick, she's probably not worth the effort.

[CaffeineQueen]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

Do girls believe it when guys say stuff like that?

did you reschedule and did you call or use some other form of new and dangerous communication?

[thebridge15]

so im dating this girl and i think she wants me WAYYY more than i want her. thats bad right

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by CaffeineQueen

did you reschedule and did you call or use some other form of new and dangerous communication?

She canceled our original 2nd date via text, so I did the same. Probably should have called, but I can hardly speak (I'm honestly really sick).

She said "ok!" and I told her that I'm free on thursday or friday though, and she responded with "i'll let you know"

[water_into_wine]

Originally Posted by thebridge15

so im dating this girl and i think she wants me WAYYY more than i want her. thats bad right

Kinda.

Just slow her down some. Every time she wants to plan something with you, stop her. Make yourself busy and create a little distance.

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by water_into_wine

Kinda.

Just slow her down some. Every time she wants to plan something with you, stop her. Make yourself busy and create a little distance.

Which for whatever reason though usually has the reverse effect...that she wants to call/talk/do something that much more.


Creating some distance will do some justice for his own well being though.

[water_into_wine]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

Which for whatever reason though usually has the reverse effect...that she wants to call/talk/do something that much more.

Yeah, but then just say you're busy and you can't do that all the time.

Either way, when that happens I feel like it is important to actively slow them down because it really isn't something you can be upfront about.

"I don't like you as much as you like me..." does not really sound great any way you put it if you still want to date her.

[CaffeineQueen]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

She canceled our original 2nd date via text, so I did the same. Probably should have called, but I can hardly speak (I'm honestly really sick).

She said "ok!" and I told her that I'm free on thursday or friday though, and she responded with "i'll let you know"

oh, ok. but still, the stupid text! ugh.

[rconverse]

Jesus, I hate my life. I actually have to consider whether something is text-worthy or call-worthy? I'm fucked.

[atrippingbillie]

Originally Posted by rconverse

Jesus, I hate my life. I actually have to consider whether something is text-worthy or call-worthy? I'm fucked.

define something

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by water_into_wine

Kinda.

Just slow her down some. Every time she wants to plan something with you, stop her. Make yourself busy and create a little distance.

yea thats what i try to do. shes out of the country right now so ive been really relaxed, but she always just wants to go all out

i dont know how to stop it without her freaking out

[Dancing Ants]

what's even funnier is when the girl is convinced you like her more than she likes you, or she's convinced herself of it. then she says shit like "i'm not going to move (to Austin, TX) if i had something to stay here for" after like 2.5 months.

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by Dancing Ants

what's even funnier is when the girl is convinced you like her more than she likes you, or she's convinced herself of it. then she says shit like "i'm not going to move (to Austin, TX) if i had something to stay here for" after like 2.5 months.

i could actually see that happening

[Dancing Ants]

Originally Posted by thebridge15

i could actually see that happening

it did. if nothing else, it's nice gratification that she actually DID like me more than i liked her (for me, it's usually the other way around).

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by Dancing Ants

it did. if nothing else, it's nice gratification that she actually DID like me more than i liked her (for me, it's usually the other way around).

for me its also usually the other way around, but those relationships arent successful...nor do they actually start

this ones successful....im just not that into it

[Dancing Ants]

you should feel good about that. it's nice to not be the "chaser" with every girl, in my opinion.

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by Dancing Ants

you should feel good about that. it's nice to not be the "chaser" with every girl, in my opinion.

youre probably right, and im just trying to put down a good thing

i guess ill see what happens when she gets home

[Dancing Ants]

Originally Posted by thebridge15

youre probably right, and im just trying to put down a good thing

i guess ill see what happens when she gets home

not that i'm great at advice of any kind, or know anything about your current situation, but a friend once told me the best advice..."do whatever you want."

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by Dancing Ants

not that i'm great at advice of any kind, or know anything about your current situation, but a friend once told me the best advice..."do whatever you want."

that does make sense

[rconverse]

Originally Posted by atrippingbillie

define something

Oh, CHRIST!

[thebridge15]

Originally Posted by rconverse

Oh, CHRIST!

i got the mad sarcasm

but dont make fun of us. we have problems!

[Dancing Ants]

Originally Posted by rconverse

Oh, CHRIST!

hahaha...if it's that big of trouble, dump her.

[werkinsnake]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

Heh, so you don't talk to a girl for 4 days and what happens? You get a text saying "sorry my phone was dead" and then an hour later a message on facebook of "hey".


Alright Ants, let me throw this up to you. What do I do here with this girl?

A.) Forget her

B.) Don't respond, just see what happens for a day or two, maybe give her a call then

C.) Respond in some kinda manner

After reading your previous posts about this girl, I'm going to suggest option D.

D) RUN LIKE HELL!!!

Mark my words that this girl is trouble. Of course, you will ignore my advice, continue to date her, discover that she's nuts, and then come back to this thread and ask how I knew. Carry on grasshopper.

Dating is miserable? Geeze, if ya'll think that dating is bad, talk to some long term married couples. It only goes downhill from here folks!

[gonz085]

Originally Posted by werkinsnake

After reading your previous posts about this girl, I'm going to suggest option D.

D) RUN LIKE HELL!!!

Mark my words that this girl is trouble. Of course, you will ignore my advice, continue to date her, discover that she's nuts, and then come back to this thread and ask how I knew. Carry on grasshopper.

Dating is miserable? Geeze, if ya'll think that dating is bad, talk to some long term married couples. It only goes downhill from here folks!

Like it or not this is gonna happen in every relationship. In all honesty, it's the degree of crazy you can deal with that will really determine how long it lasts.

[werkinsnake]

Originally Posted by gonz085

Like it or not this is gonna happen in every relationship. In all honesty, it's the degree of crazy you can deal with that will really determine how long it lasts.

Well, this is true. I'm still going to stick with my gut feeling that this girl is more trouble than the average.

[whiteysax]

I want a nut of my own...

[gonz085]

Originally Posted by werkinsnake

Well, this is true. I'm still going to stick with my gut feeling that this girl is more trouble than the average.

oh, I completely agree. She's the batshit crazy kind especially after some of his last posts.

I think this may be due to the fact that I haven't been in a serious relationship in my life (all just small shit) but for some reason I'm always, not exactly clingy, but I overhype the situation anytime I find out a chick who I kinda like is infatuated with me. Seems strange to me, and I dunno why it happens.