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Old 02-25-2021, 04:18 PM   #1
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Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

So I have been having this debate for a while on if you really can bring Boyd back in to the fold assuming everybody got back on the same page..

The simple facr for me is every time I see or hear him I sort of reminded about his situation...yes he seattled out of court....and you never say never but I dont know...

Im hoping to have a civil conversation here on this...
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    So I have been having this debate for a while on if you really can bring Boyd back in to the fold assuming everybody got back on the same page..

    The simple facr for me is every time I see or hear him I sort of reminded about his situation...yes he seattled out of court....and you never say never but I dont know...

    Im hoping to have a civil conversation here on this...
    The band is against pedophilia, unwanted touching, molestation, drugs and oh ya raping dudes.. Since the band is all dudes it's definitely a fear of theirs and I think they were worried about it on stage. No one ever turned their back to Boyd if you ever notice.
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    So I have been having this debate for a while on if you really can bring Boyd back in to the fold assuming everybody got back on the same page..

    The simple facr for me is every time I see or hear him I sort of reminded about his situation...yes he seattled out of court....and you never say never but I dont know...

    Im hoping to have a civil conversation here on this...
    Who were you debating with? Do non Dmb fans know about it? What are their thoughts? Is it really a #metoo issue? Or do you think the band wanted boyd out of the band so bad they paid this guy to accuse him of this knowing it wouldn't go anywhere, but no one would argue because Boyd is so weird. #socksarestinky and the band was tired of losing all their socks and blaming their maids for stealing them.

    Carter wakes up and calls Dave and says "Yo Dave, did you steal my sock again? i only have 3 left and none of them match"

    And Dave goes " Yo Carter. Weird. I have your socks here but they are all soiled and mine are gone"

    Stefan knocks on Jeff Coffins door with a handful of mismatched socks. Jeff opens it barefoot and asks Stefan why he stole eveyone's socks again..

    Stefan has to defend himself and Jeff doesn't believe him...

    This caused a lot of in fighting until Boyd fessed up. At which point the band decided to come up a scheme to get him out of the way so everyone could keep their socks.

    If you notice the band is much happier now because they don't have to buy new socks every day or play in shoes with no socks because that sucks and makes your shoes stink really quickly.

    I think it's for the best Boyd stay away.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Pedophilia.....really? Read the court documents and I don't recall that term ever being used. Using his power to take emotional and physical advantage of people.....yes. Addicted to drugs.....yes.
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    Pedophilia.....really? Read the court documents and I don't recall that term ever being used. Using his power to take emotional and physical advantage of people.....yes. Addicted to drugs.....yes.
    I'm not going to read the fucking court documents. It's a fucking joke with a bit of truth mixed in. He was accused of it before this case btw.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Plus, it's another reason you don't even replace with another violinist. Any one they would have hired would be compared to Boyd, for better or worse. That then would also bring up the history of that situation. The more space you can get away from that, the better.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Why would they make a bad PR move while making the band worse?
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    Old 02-25-2021, 05:35 PM   #8
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    Plus, it's another reason you don't even replace with another violinist. Any one they would have hired would be compared to Boyd, for better or worse. That then would also bring up the history of that situation. The more space you can get away from that, the better.
    Ehh, you would know, obviously, but after some time, I think you can get away from that. It's no secret how important the violin is to this band. They would not be the first successful band to replace a member accused of something with a subsequent member that plays the same instrument. To think that they would rather just forego the instrument and sound all together because they are trying to distance themselves from someone who has already been removed from the band is a bit of overkill if you ask me.
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    Old 02-25-2021, 05:39 PM   #9
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    "addicted to drugs" the dude smoked weed and vaped.
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    Old 02-25-2021, 05:46 PM   #10
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    "addicted to drugs" the dude smoked weed and vaped.

    Have you seen the post-DMB videos where he can barely stand while "performing" on stage?
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    "addicted to drugs" the dude smoked weed and vaped.
    I think hes on...other things. Really hope he gets help. The path hes on really doesnt lead to a good end.

    To the core of this question - you cant bring him back because A) the bad PR and B) the bad quality of musicianship. ToySoldier has it 100% right.

    Now, should they bring on a new violinist? Absolutely.
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    Old 02-25-2021, 07:45 PM   #12
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Boyd kissed dave at a concert, dont think dave liked that
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    Old 02-25-2021, 07:57 PM   #13
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    I think people overestimate the extent to which the lawsuit against Boyd was a mainstream story. Compared to 99% of the #metoo accusations this story got literally no traction whatsoever. There are still people attending DMB shows regularly who have no idea what happened to Boyd or who think Boyd is now playing the keys. If Boyd was brought back, there wouldn't be any major PR shitstorm since DMB isn't a mainstream act anymore and Boyd's accusations were relatively tame compared to those that have been levied at others (e.g. Marilyn Manson, Ryan Adams, etc.)

    Most causal fans would be ecstatic for Boyd to come back and don't give a shit that some dude accused Boyd of being a creep. Hell, most of DMB's most passionate fans would still attend DMB shows even if Dave got a bunch of serious #metoo accusations hurled at him. If Boyd gets his shit together, eventually Cap$haw is going to play the "DMB set to tour for first time in 10 years with founding member Boyd Tinsley on violin!" card to move some tickets and generate some buzz for a tour. It won't happen anytime soon but you'd be a fool to think Boyd will never be on stage with DMB again.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    You can't bring Boyd back because he plays the violin with the skill level of a 5 year old. He's awful. I wish they'd bring in a skilled violin player to replace him, but that's their call.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    It won't happen anytime soon but you'd be a fool to think Boyd will never be on stage with DMB again.

    Well there's about a 99.9% chance he won't so ...
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    Well there's about a 99.9% chance he won't so ...
    He'll definitely be there for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction. Dave even said as much in an interview awhile back.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    Since the band is all dudes it's definitely a fear of theirs and I think they were worried about it on stage. No one ever turned their back to Boyd if you ever notice.

    Thanks, I needed a good laugh. Believe this or not, but grown adults secure in their sexuality are not this paranoid. Methinks you're projecting a bit much here.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    The band is against pedophilia, unwanted touching, molestation, drugs and oh ya raping dudes.. Since the band is all dudes it's definitely a fear of theirs and I think they were worried about it on stage. No one ever turned their back to Boyd if you ever notice.
    WTF is this.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    I was wondering why no one addressed that absolutely absurd statement . I assumed he was kidding and didn't want to come off as an assole.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Boyd didn’t care to grow as a musician, I’m all for bringing back a violinist, but someone who can hold his own with the talent on stage. Boyd’s solos don’t sound all that different in any given year. It would be different if he composed and wrote songs with Dave, but he didn’t do that either.
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    He'll definitely be there for the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction. Dave even said as much in an interview awhile back.
    I predict this moment will probably be the last time hes on stage with DMB.

    The guy made enough where he could go on tour with a violin instructor with an impressive resume teaching the instrument but Boyd didnt care to do that. Dave hired Raab as an example.
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    hey zellea21, what are ur thoughts on bringing back Butch Taylor?
    Maybe you can molotov cocktail another [board] sincere discussion (without ever contributing) again ya triflin' pyro?
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    I predict this moment will probably be the last time hes on stage with DMB.

    The guy made enough where he could go on tour with a violin instructor with an impressive resume teaching the instrument but Boyd didnt care to do that. Dave hired Raab as an example.
    this!

    Srsly must've been the most over-paid sessions player throughout the history of the recording industry?
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    Boyd wasn't THAT bad. He's not the most technically proficient to say the least, but his style fit perfectly with this band, especially in the early days. His issue? Tuning. So many shows where he was wildly out of tune and he didn't seem to care.
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    Thanks, I needed a good laugh. Believe this or not, but grown adults secure in their sexuality are not this paranoid. Methinks you're projecting a bit much here.
    Im pretty sure HonestDenver is trolling the thread....or hes willfully misinformed since he even admitted hes never read nor cares to read those court documents. I wish he would vanish too bc he comes off as a huge homophobe.
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    Im pretty sure HonestDenver is trolling the thread....or hes willfully misinformed since he even admitted hes never read nor cares to read those court documents. I wish he would vanish too bc he comes off as a huge homophobe.

    He trolled the Covid thread laughing at people who want to get the vaccine
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    Also the pedophile comment. Boyd has never been accused of this and I know people close to the band.
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    Plus, it's another reason you don't even replace with another violinist. Any one they would have hired would be compared to Boyd, for better or worse. That then would also bring up the history of that situation. The more space you can get away from that, the better.
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    Ehh, you would know, obviously, but after some time, I think you can get away from that. It's no secret how important the violin is to this band. They would not be the first successful band to replace a member accused of something with a subsequent member that plays the same instrument. To think that they would rather just forego the instrument and sound all together because they are trying to distance themselves from someone who has already been removed from the band is a bit of overkill if you ask me.
    The way anything gets covered in the press, it absolutely would bring Boyd back into the conversation. It was mainstream for a hot second, and then everyone moved on. But it's the type of thing that would become an awkward blurb in the conversation thanks to outlets like TMZ and CNN's constant need to break up actually covering the news-worthy events of the world with non-news distractions. Nobody ever brings up settled out of court or an 180 turn in those situations. They don't care about the retraction or resolution, just that there was friction.

    Anytime you read a Prince article now they feel obligated to point out that he died of an overdose. While true technically, the aside that it gets treated as makes it seem that he had a serious drug problem instead of being given a bottle of medication that was not what was on the label. The way it is treated is always like, "Prince was an addict that OD'd" instead of "Prince died of a doctor-prescribed drug for chronic joint pain due to years of performance related injuries that seems to have been unknowingly switched." Both are right, but the one that's more right doesn't allow you to move on with the conversation without clarifying.

    I can see the Rolling Stone blurb now...
    "After several years without, Dave Matthews Band has a new violinist. Blah Blah yadda yadda brings back sh-boom sh-boom to the higgidy figgidy etc... Blah Blah fills the void left by the group's original violinist, Boyd Tinsley, who left the band in 2018 due to mounting allegations of rape and drug use."

    (Sadly, that says about as much as Rolling Stone would in reality.)
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

    I guess this is a discussion board so naturally things are going to be discussed (go figure!)

    But I can’t believe this is still being discussed. Boyd isn’t coming back period.

    Dave loves the new sound too much it seems to have another violinist.

    Time to move on from that chapter
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    Re: Why You Can't Bring Boyd Back...

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    You can't bring Boyd back because he plays the violin with the skill level of a 5 year old. He's awful. I wish they'd bring in a skilled violin player to replace him, but that's their call.
    This is the correct reply.
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