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Originally Posted by Speilmen230
I'm in a weird place where I'm really happy and feel loved in my relationship, but I feel like but what else is out there? I know that I've got a great companion and someone I truly love, but my mind wanders. I typically snap out of it when I realize the personality and relationship is what really matters, but I always wonder what else or where else I would be if I was single instead.
Almost like an alternative timeline paradox.
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The bold feels like its implying that physical attraction isn't as important as personality. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm getting that your mind wanders but those eyes are wandering too. Which, you know, would be valid.
You're in your mid 20's yeah? How long in the relationship? Marriage potential?
I just got out of 5 year relationship, 27 years old, and while there were plenty of reasons why we split (it was a very amicable split) the question of "what else is out there?" definitely was nagging and wouldn't go away as well as me feeling like my physical attraction to her had decreased over time and that I was capable of sleeping with very hot women.
That "what else is out there" though was not just her/ a girl, but EVERYTHING. My entire life. Sounds like its the same for you. That's a valid feeling though and it came up enough times for me over and over again to the point where I realized I would definitely regret not going out and exploring on my own because I'd never done that post-college.
Whatever the reason for the itch is, whatever it looks like, different for each person obviously but we all have that itch that needs scratching. That feeling of lets keep growing. Now, there were years of my relationship that I felt like, yeah, us being together is ultimately whats best for us as individuals as well, but then of course, it changed and I felt like I needed to step into a new stage of life alone in order to grow.
Hardest decision in the world, so fucking hard because my love for her is still very strong, but two months on the other side and I haven't second guessed it for a second.
All I can say is if you're in touch with what you know you need in life, what's true and ultimately going to foster growth in the ways you want for yourself, then that's most important and to just continue to be aware of it.
I've found that with my relationship, ultimately my gut feelings on what I needed to do won out in the end over my rationalizing of this, that and the other.
So yeah.
/kinda high and rambling.