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Old 04-09-2019, 09:23 AM   #61
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message board posting has a way of sometimes making things seem a certain way when they weren't. I understood that your intentions were not meant to be dismissive
This took serious guts to write. Thank you.

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My comment was literally in response to Smoke saying "no one likes that guy." I was telling those people to fuck off, not you.

But tell me again how triggered I am. Thanks for missing the point, Captain Condescending.
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    You weren't really. I got what your original post was.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 09:33 AM   #63
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    Can we ?

    Congratulations again on the boy. Parenting really is the best mission in life imo.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 09:34 AM   #64
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    I don't wanna hug you. You root for the Caps.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 09:37 AM   #65
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    Just wait until your boy roots for the Penguins
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    Old 04-09-2019, 11:01 AM   #66
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    i just started coaching my sons soccer team. Its 4-6, and he just turned 4 a couple weeks ago. I feel bad for him because he's the youngest, so hes smallest kid on the team (he will always be), and they all played soccer before so he's really playing catch up. That said he's having a ball just running around, its hilarious

    today we played baseball outside for an hour. He mastered the t pretty quickly last year he just wants me to pitch to him. I'm trying to get him to do the t more often though because it's a lot better for him
    That is great you are coaching your son's team. Have fun. Also cool about playing catch and hitting. My son liked it better when I pitched to him and took it deep. He liked it even better when he would hit a line drive back up the box and hit dad in the junk. The latter happened more than once and he enjoyed it every time. Me, not so much.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 11:04 AM   #67
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    Maybe you've read this as I have posted it before or your friends / family have told you this, but I always like to remind new fathers to make sure you take advantage of the newborn napping on your chest as much as possible. After just a few months, they get too big for it.
    This 100000%. I would do this after my wife was done feeding our son. It would allow her to get some rest/sleep and allow me to bond with our son too. Those were some of the most special times.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 11:08 AM   #68
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    My 9-month old took her first steps last night. The smile on her face as she did could not have contained any more joy. It is so amazing to see her do new things what feels like every single day, but it also feels like this is happening way to fast and needs to slow down so we can soak it all in.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 11:33 AM   #69
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    My 9-month old took her first steps last night. The smile on her face as she did could not have contained any more joy. It is so amazing to see her do new things what feels like every single day, but it also feels like this is happening way to fast and needs to slow down so we can soak it all in.
    I have been saying that for over 14 years and no one is listening.

    That is great about the first steps. The word just got a little bigger for her. I just try to take the approach that for every milestone that passed, hopefully, there would be more to come. That way I was able to enjoy what happened and also looked forward to what was in front of us.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 11:57 AM   #70
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    I have been saying that for over 14 years and no one is listening.

    That is great about the first steps. The word just got a little bigger for her. I just try to take the approach that for every milestone that passed, hopefully, there would be more to come. That way I was able to enjoy what happened and also looked forward to what was in front of us.
    So cliche but so true. It just flies by.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 12:13 PM   #71
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    So cliche but so true. It just flies by.
    Truth. I had no kids when I started posting here, now I have a middle schooler. JFC.
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    Old 04-09-2019, 12:26 PM   #72
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    Truth. I had no kids when I started posting here, now I have a middle schooler. JFC.
    Damn! After I read your post, I got curious. My wife was just a couple months pregnant when I started posting here. Now that wee lad is going to concerts with me.
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    Kids sure keep you busy. My schedule recently is hockey Monday nights for my daughter, which I coach, Tuesdays piano lessons night for both kids, Wednesday hockey for my son, which I coach, Thursday is dance and/or boy scouts, and hockey again Saturday morning. I have no clue what I did with my time before kids.
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    ^ it's rather exhausting. I work an after school program and a part-time job, and I coach soccer twice a week. When he's older it'll be 3-4x a week for whatever sport he's playing basically all year
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    Old 04-09-2019, 07:16 PM   #75
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    Parenting never ends. I’m not the..just wait till..ect guy.
    It never ends until you die.
    My daughter 21 and my son 20, still come to me seeking advice on things they really don’t know how to handle.
    It’s great though, to be respected as an elder with wisdom and knowledge.
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    Parenting is definitely a club that you don't or can't fully experience or begin to understand until you have kids of your own. It puts life into perspective. The highs and lows of parenting show you a lot about yourself.
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    Old 04-10-2019, 03:36 AM   #77
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    Parenting never ends. I’m not the..just wait till..ect guy.
    It never ends until you die.
    My daughter 21 and my son 20, still come to me seeking advice on things they really don’t know how to handle.
    It’s great though, to be respected as an elder with wisdom and knowledge.
    I'm 35 and I still call my dad all the time. Without him or Google I wouldn't know how to do anything in my house. I'm afraid I'm gonna be useless to my own kid when he's my age lol
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    Took him to the walk-in clinic last week for the first time, but no RSV, and no pink eye. All good, and he's much better now.

    A minor thing: He has eczema on his legs. They are so dry. We have been using lotion, baby oil, baths, but nothing really works. Apparently it is fairly common though and babies often grow out of it.


    An actual question: Anyone deal with a baby that won't stop sticking his fingers in his mouth? His knuckles are raw from always sucking on his hands. We use babyganics safe hand sanitizer regularly on his hands, but don't want to put lotion or anything on them because he will just stick it into his mouth. Anyone dealt with something like this?
    Our daughter has eczema and it sounds like we've been on a similar treatment plan haha. She's 2 now, and it basically comes and goes. We're trying "eczema honey" ... still too soon to tell, but seems to be making a difference.
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    One time, my daughter was at the indoor play area in the mall (long Pittsburgh winters!) and a kid basically decked her. Just ran right over her, and kept going ... I saw the collision about to happen, but was too far away to do anything. The moment he made physical contact with her, my gut reaction was to beat him senseless. I actually took an initial step towards him, before I realized what was happening. Very disorienting moment.
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    I'm 35 and I still call my dad all the time. Without him or Google I wouldn't know how to do anything in my house. I'm afraid I'm gonna be useless to my own kid when he's my age lol
    seriously lol. my dad is a joe handyman kinda guy. he's saved him and my mom a ton of money over the years doing various repairs and upgrades on the houses we lived in.

    i got maybe a fraction of that skill granted, growing up i had little interest in actually paying attention to what he was doing while i helped
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    seriously lol. my dad is a joe handyman kinda guy. he's saved him and my mom a ton of money over the years doing various repairs and upgrades on the houses we lived in.

    i got maybe a fraction of that skill granted, growing up i had little interest in actually paying attention to what he was doing while i helped
    This is the type of stuff you realize after you have had kids of your own. I viewed my parents as the "enemy" growing up. After I had kids I realized how dumb that view is. Too late of course, but now I value my parents more than I ever have. I struggle so hard raising my kids, on all fronts, just makes me appreciate how well my parents handled raising me, and how much I truly value them and really owe everything to them. So much time, effort, and sacrifice. It's a thankless job, but so rewarding in the long run.
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    I have been saying that for over 14 years and no one is listening.

    That is great about the first steps. The word just got a little bigger for her. I just try to take the approach that for every milestone that passed, hopefully, there would be more to come. That way I was able to enjoy what happened and also looked forward to what was in front of us.
    I like that approach.

    One thing that I've really started to recognize over the past couple months is how awesome it is to watch her experience things for the first time. We got a zoo membership last week and I can't wait to start taking her and watching her experience it this summer.
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    I'm 35 and I still call my dad all the time. Without him or Google I wouldn't know how to do anything in my house. I'm afraid I'm gonna be useless to my own kid when he's my age lol
    100% this. My dad has essentially built an entire house before - with plumbing. He got help with the electrical and it's just a little two bedroom 1 bath with a kitchen on some property we have...but I'm sitting there thinking what the fuck?

    He goes, I just try stuff son. Guess that's the lesson.
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    My twins were up all night last night. My wife and I took turns just laying on the floor beside their beds comforting them.
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    ...I value my parents more than I ever have. I struggle so hard raising my kids, on all fronts, just makes me appreciate how well my parents handled raising me, and how much I truly value them and really owe everything to them. So much time, effort, and sacrifice. It's a thankless job, but so rewarding in the long run.
    I couldn't have put this better myself - it's 100% spot on.

    I think every parent has these feelings from time to time but sometimes it just feels like my best isn't good enough, inadequacies, etc... even though I know deep down I'm doing fine and my kids are doing great.

    Knowing that at one point your parents probably felt the same way is some comfort, especially considering that generally speaking we're all ok and everything turned out fine.

    My relationship with my parents, as you said, has never been better. Knowing that they're there to offer guidance and wisdom since they went through the same exact things is extremely comforting.

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    I like that approach.

    One thing that I've really started to recognize over the past couple months is how awesome it is to watch her experience things for the first time. We got a zoo membership last week and I can't wait to start taking her and watching her experience it this summer.
    when my son was about 6 months old we were out back and he saw a butterfly and I caught him looking at it and realized it was the 1st time he's ever seen one. We must have watched that butterfly for a full 2-3 minutes. Watching it through his eyes was a very enlightening experience
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    when my son was about 6 months old we were out back and he saw a butterfly and I caught him looking at it and realized it was the 1st time he's ever seen one. We must have watched that butterfly for a full 2-3 minutes. Watching it through his eyes was a very enlightening experience
    That is awesome. I always wonder what is happening in that new mind when they see something for the first time. You wish you could ask them that question and get a response to gain that perspective.
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    So I had to have a meeting yesterday with my 4 year old daughter’s preschool teacher because apparently she wouldn’t stop calling her classmate “Ebenezer Sneezer”. 4 years old and already picking on a boy. So it begins.
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    So I had to have a meeting yesterday with my 4 year old daughter’s preschool teacher because apparently she wouldn’t stop calling her classmate “Ebenezer Sneezer”. 4 years old and already picking on a boy. So it begins.


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    So I had to have a meeting yesterday with my 4 year old daughter’s preschool teacher because apparently she wouldn’t stop calling her classmate “Ebenezer Sneezer”. 4 years old and already picking on a boy. So it begins.
    And that requires a meeting w/ the Teacher? Sounds like he/she is having trouble controlling the classroom.
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