Dating is miserable

[monkeyman420]

Originally Posted by jcc522

38... she’s scared bro. Mother Nature is ticking for her and she’s wrestling on the decision of if she’ll find anyone else or if she should settle on you. She’s made the evaluation that she thinks she still has time to find someone else.

That’s good for you. You don’t want to be the one she settles for. Continue being friends but don’t pursue a romantic relationship with her.

That was my thought when she first brought up dating, that she was settling and she was going off her internal clock. I want nothing to do with that and don't want to just settle down with someone. The friend route has been just fine with us and it will stay that way.

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by monkeyman420

That was my thought when she first brought up dating, that she was settling and she was going off her internal clock. I want nothing to do with that and don't want to just settle down with someone. The friend route has been just fine with us and it will stay that way.

I’d still shun her for 1 month.

[jcc522]

Originally Posted by Climb2safety

I’d still shun her for 1 month.

5 weeks

[jcc522]

Got a fat chick and a fifth of passion fruit vodka over lmao. RIP to my neighbors ears.

[Dave&Tim41]

Met this girl who is way out of my league, went on a date and it went great. I was traveling for work this week so we couldn't go out again, but we've been texting. Haven't been this nervous about a girl since my ex. Haven't thought of my ex either, so maybe I got something good. Here's hoping.

[fridge112887]

Originally Posted by Dave&Tim41

Met this girl who is way out of my league, went on a date and it went great. I was traveling for work this week so we couldn't go out again, but we've been texting. Haven't been this nervous about a girl since my ex. Haven't thought of my ex either, so maybe I got something good. Here's hoping.

Why do you say she's out of your league? Don't sell yourself short. Best of luck, brohan

[Dave&Tim41]

Originally Posted by fridge112887

Why do you say she's out of your league? Don't sell yourself short. Best of luck, brohan

Ha, old habit and not much self confidence. Probably why I'm panicking that we haven't texted in several hours.

Appreciate the mention, brother.

[fridge112887]

Originally Posted by Dave&Tim41

Ha, old habit and not much self confidence. Probably why I'm panicking that we haven't texted in several hours.

Appreciate the mention, brother.

That makes two of us I know it's easy for me to say, but don't sweat that stuff. Worrying about it only makes it worse.

[Dave&Tim41]

Originally Posted by fridge112887

That makes two of us I know it's easy for me to say, but don't sweat that stuff. Worrying about it only makes it worse.

Oh I know, we texted last night (she texted me) so I have nothing to worry about. Can't help myself sometimes haha. I truly do not enjoy this whole casual dating thing.

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by fridge112887

Why do you say she's out of your league? Don't sell yourself short. Best of luck, brohan

I think girls are out of my league when I think they are smarter then me. I'm in community college again because I had to take a step back for a few semesters. so if I feel like girls look down upon stuff like that.

[tyler3440]

Look, I have been talking with this pretty hot chick on tinder. We have talked a bit but not a whole lot. Today I asked her if she was planning any vacation for the rest of the summer. She still hasn't responded. Are those the type of questions that I should be asking?

If she doesn't respond should I just ask her out or does that look desperate?

[dmbetc]

Gotta get out of your own head Tyler.

[Dave&Tim41]

Unfortunately, I was right. That girl ghosted me. Hurt a hell of a lot more than I was expecting, especially since I knew her for a week. But, got over it real fast. Onto the next! Have a date next week with a different girl, we shall see. I truly, truly hate dating.

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by Dave&Tim41

Unfortunately, I was right. That girl ghosted me. Hurt a hell of a lot more than I was expecting, especially since I knew her for a week. But, got over it real fast. Onto the next! Have a date next week with a different girl, we shall see. I truly, truly hate dating.

You might as well lean into it

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

Look, I have been talking with this pretty hot chick on tinder. We have talked a bit but not a whole lot. Today I asked her if she was planning any vacation for the rest of the summer. She still hasn't responded. Are those the type of questions that I should be asking?

If she doesn't respond should I just ask her out or does that look desperate?

You should be asking when you can buy her dinner.

Less talk, more closing.

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by Climb2safety

You should be asking when you can buy her dinner.

Less talk, more closing.

So just go for it?

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

So just go for it?

Yes.....

[ToySoldier#34]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

Look, I have been talking with this pretty hot chick on tinder. We have talked a bit but not a whole lot. Today I asked her if she was planning any vacation for the rest of the summer. She still hasn't responded. Are those the type of questions that I should be asking?

If she doesn't respond should I just ask her out or does that look desperate?

I get you are trying to have a conversation and ease your way into asking maybe at some point but be more direct and follow Roose's advice, she isn't any more or less likely to go out with you regardless of how she answers your question about vacations.

"Are you going on any vacations in August?"

"Yep"

"Oh, uh, cool!"

[Dave&Tim41]

I've found the same thing. Honestly, yeah you need to start the conversation somehow but eventually you just gotta be up front and ask her out on a date.

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by ToySoldier#34

I get you are trying to have a conversation and ease your way into asking maybe at some point but be more direct and follow Roose's advice, she isn't any more or less likely to go out with you regardless of how she answers your question about vacations.

"Are you going on any vacations in August?"

"Yep"

"Oh, uh, cool!"

Climb'd advise. I was just agreeing haha.

Anyway, of course you have a casual conversation to make them feel comfortable talking to you, but anymore it seems you have to be up front and flat out ask," hey, I'm off tomorrow night. Wanna grab a bite to eat?"

[Roose13]

I would treat asking for a date the same way I'd approach asking questions for a story. Don't leave the question open-ended because it gives them the option to avoid giving you a definitive answer if they're uncertain about you. Make the girl make a decision right there. "Hey, would you wanna grab dinner tomorrow?" A yes or no tells you all you need for the next step. Then you don't have to ask us "is she into me? She has responded to my open-ended question about her plans this summer."

[ToySoldier#34]

Originally Posted by Roose13

Climb'd advise. I was just agreeing haha.

Anyway, of course you have a casual conversation to make them feel comfortable talking to you, but anymore it seems you have to be up front and flat out ask," hey, I'm off tomorrow night. Wanna grab a bite to eat?"

Ah, yeah there comes a certain point where they are just assuming you are going to ask, you don't want that to turn into "am I ever going to get asked?" for too long. I made that mistake over and over in the past.

[tyler3440]

Well there it goes.

I asked her out to coffee just because Its easier and it's not expensive.

The thing about these apps is I could just be any old fool or a catfish. I feel like girls want to get to know someone a bit before they go meeting some stranger from the internet.

[sbuzzz]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

Well there it goes.

I asked her out to coffee just because Its easier and it's not expensive.

The thing about these apps is I could just be any old fool or a catfish. I feel like girls want to get to know someone a bit before they go meeting some stranger from the internet.

I usually say something about wanting them to feel safe and is there anything they want to know about me before we meet. The girls eat that shit up and the dates get set.

[Climb2safety]

I’d assume she wouldn’t be talking to you if she wasn’t interested so really, it’s a little banter then let’s do this.

You’re not there to chat, your there to get in person dates. And if she won’t commit to a date then move on. She is either not seriously looking, isn’t interested, or slow playing you for someone else. All things you want to avoid.

You can’t really get to know anyone on some dating app chat. But you can blow your chances by letting the conversation go too long and saying something stupid, which as men will eventually happen.

So, go all in on the flop, the turn at the latest.

[Roose13]

And if you wait till the river you could be up shit creek without a paddle.

Badum tss

[Climb2safety]

Never let her see the river - you got to either make her go all-in or fold

(And I mean All-in your pants)

[fridge112887]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

I think girls are out of my league when I think they are smarter then me. I'm in community college again because I had to take a step back for a few semesters. so if I feel like girls look down upon stuff like that.

Naw, not at all. Girls will look down upon you if you have no plan in life other than jerkin' your brahs off while you play that stupid Fortnite thing. You obviously have a goal and a set plan, otherwise you wouldn't be in school. Hell, I have one degree and I'm going back for my second in nursing. I'm taking the last of my prerequisite courses at the local community college before I transfer to a four-year university in January. If these girls can't appreciate the fact that you're trying to be economical with your money by going to CC then they should piss off.

[Roose13]

My wife makes twice as much as I do. Women don't look down on you if you have life goals, self respect, your shit together and you're just a decent human being like Grant said.

[DMBstandUP1984]

Originally Posted by Roose13

My wife makes twice as much as I do. Women don't look down on you if you have life goals, self respect, your shit together and you're just a decent human being like Grant said.

My wife also makes twice as much as I do lol

But yes i agree with you here. Good post