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Originally Posted by Tiduwho
Getting ready to send out Save the Dates. Wedding invite politics suck...there are people on my fringe invite list that I definitely would have invited before...but we weren't invited to their wedding. Really makes you feel like you should return the favor.
But then...our wedding may be 200 or so, while theirs may have been less than 100. Hmm, what to do.
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If they're fringe, I say just don't send a save the date and play it by ear.
If they didn't invite you to theirs because they had a smaller wedding, then I don't think you should view it as "why invite them to ours, I wasn't at theirs." However, if you don't really care about them, they had a huge wedding and you didn't make their list, then why bother inviting them to yours.
Or basically the first part of my sentence: if you don't care if they're at yours. Don't invite them. If you want them to be at yours, don't worry that you didn't get invited to theirs and invite them anyway.
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Originally Posted by M. Steng
Exactly what I was going to say. If they're fringe then they probably realize they're fringe and probably viewed you the same way for their wedding. We've got a few B-list people who we may send invites out to like a month in advance just so we can say we invited them so they're not offended.
I've heard of people doing the reverse, as in sending out save the dates to people who they don't end up inviting to the wedding. That seems particularly cruel
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That's just incredibly rude and tacky (sending a save the date and then not inviting them). Unless your circumstance way changed (either with the relationship or with your actual reception), you don't do that.
And, realize if you invite someone a month out, they'll know they were the b list. So, if it's a matter of saying you invited them so they're "not offended," realize they may still be b/c they'll know.