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Originally Posted by trippinbilli40
soo..i started smoking in march 2005 and have NEVER quit or gone sober for longer than maybe 3 or 4 days, and today i think im gonna try to quit. i dont have a reason, or any timeframe, but im gonna try. i need to spend money on other stuff and i REALLY REALLY need a girlfriend.
so, basically...what the hell should i do with my time now? usually when i get off work i go smoke but right now im sitting here at my desk, and could leave at any time, but i dont really have anything to do. any ideas?
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I say this every time I run out for a period of time, but I think I might go on a hiatus of a few months when I feel it is appropriate, that is, when I don't have problems to temporarily forget about, insurrmountable anxiety, depression, and insomnia...not to mention being a total dick to everyone around me.
I wouldn't quit soley because you need a girlfriend. You can find someone who partakes, but it's a good idea, as a general rule, to avoid a pothead girlfriend if you yourself are a pothead. Two peas in a pod, etc. If you find someone who can help you balance your life, great. Also, sometimes pussy just complicates shit, and I'm sure women would say the same thing about us.
You should get at the root of why you really want to quit. The monetary justification is valid, without a doubt, but quitting just because you want a girlfriend is not valid, in my opinion. Of course, objectively, I'm wrong. I've said the same thing, but at this point I am of the mindset beyond getting laid - I just want to companionship. It's been hard since I've moved away for school. Quit because YOU want to quit, and provide yourself an incentive to quit, such as by setting a realistic and easily acheivable, but challenge goal.
As for your time, use it to accomplish your goal. If you have a hobbie that you like or a trip you want to take, save up money for it or get into the hobby. Hang out with the right people and try to have a busy social life -- that could bring a girl into your life. Set a list of minor goals for each and every day, get them done - before you know it it'll be time to pass out and you won't think about toking up once the routine isn't there. You just need to kill the habit. The desire will go away after a couple of weeks, you might even completely change. I've seen people do it.
I've been going through alot of these issues, so I hope that all the shit above helped and that you might actually read it. I'm a little verbose by nature. Good luck. Also, stay away from this thread...that helps too. A bunch of people talking about how they're ripped doesn't help, nor do friends and acquaintences. Change your playmates, playplaces, and playthings wherever possible.
Peace.