Dating is miserable

[redsox14]

My ex is actually my roommate. We didn't date for long, 3-4 months about 2 years ago. We actually stayed friends and would hang out once every couple months. I bought a house a year ago and he asked if I was looking for a roommate. (He was still living at home and wanted to move out.) I agree it's not for everyone and I have exes I don't talk to but this one worked out. He broke up with me and I was pretty upset but I soon realized we weren't meant to be together. I have a new boyfriend and it's totally fine. No jealousy or anything. The new BF thought it was a little odd but he didn't seem to care.

My friend said it best yesterday. You got your ex to pay you money every month? That's amazing. haha

[TheLastStop123]

Originally Posted by redsox14

My ex is actually my roommate. We didn't date for long, 3-4 months about 2 years ago. We actually stayed friends and would hang out once every couple months. I bought a house a year ago and he asked if I was looking for a roommate. (He was still living at home and wanted to move out.) I agree it's not for everyone and I have exes I don't talk to but this one worked out. He broke up with me and I was pretty upset but I soon realized we weren't meant to be together. I have a new boyfriend and it's totally fine. No jealousy or anything. The new BF thought it was a little odd but he didn't seem to care.

My friend said it best yesterday. You got your ex to pay you money every month? That's amazing. haha

The fact that your current boyfriend is okay with that is pretty amazing honestly haha.

[ToySoldier#34]

Couple of weeks ago: get invited to a girls condo who I'm interested in for a group party and dress well, try to say the right things, fit in, etc. and it goes nowhere

Last night: don't shave for days on end, hair looks like it was combed with my foot, clothes don't match, eat 20 lbs. of food and say ridiculously inappropriate things at a buddy's house for Pats game party and get a text that a girl is interested

...

[spoot388]

im home visiting friends and family for the week and i was hanging out with one of my best friends. she told me that she was telling one of her good friends that i was coming home to visit and showed her my picture. this girl thinks im cute and wasn't happy with the fact that i live 2000 miles away now. shes cute and i'd see what would happen, but of course i now don't live in pennsylvania any more to give it a try. she has a boyfriend at the moment so i can't even make anything happen while i'm home.



on a different relationship related note, i met up with my ex for the first time in 6 years. it was weird, but good. it was the first real conversation we've had since we broke up but we just sort of fell into the old-friends-catching-up feel. it really wasn't awkward at all. she wants me to let her know the next time i come in so we can get together again and added me back on fb already.

[bartender_man]

Got a new situation I'm working on. Met a girl couple months back via a friend. She was engaged to a girl but was flirting very heavily with me. Had a good night, some laughs, forgot about it.

Some weeks later, found out she and the chick broke up. We connected and went out on a date last weekend. Drank a lot, had a few pills and ended up hooking up with her.

She seems really cool but obviously early days. Will see how things go from here.

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by bartender_man

Got a new situation I'm working on. Met a girl couple months back via a friend. She was engaged to a girl but was flirting very heavily with me. Had a good night, some laughs, forgot about it.

Some weeks later, found out she and the chick broke up. We connected and went out on a date last weekend. Drank a lot, had a few pills and ended up hooking up with her.

She seems really cool but obviously early days. Will see how things go from here.

Solid - bonus points when you get them to switch teams my man! That shows real game.

Curious, what kind of pills?

[Climb2safety]

Here's an idea for all you daters - might do it Saturday

www.urbanadventurequest.com

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by bartender_man

Got a new situation I'm working on. Met a girl couple months back via a friend. She was engaged to a girl but was flirting very heavily with me. Had a good night, some laughs, forgot about it.

Some weeks later, found out she and the chick broke up. We connected and went out on a date last weekend. Drank a lot, had a few pills and ended up hooking up with her.

She seems really cool but obviously early days. Will see how things go from here.

Are things still going good?

[tyler3440]

I think I'm bit paranoid. Because I analyzed everything.

so the other day I was talking to the girl I like.. I only see her 2 days a week so I rarely get to see her. But yeah she asked me what class I was going to and I was like biology. But last week we had the same exact conversation and she told me she was going to bio as well. So after I told her where I was going I told her what to expect in her bio class because I had the same one last semester. Should I have played it dumb and asked her again what class she was going to even tho she told me last week. I'm afraid I'm coming off a bit stalkerish.

And why is she playing dumb? Or she just forgot? I mean literally we had the exact conversation last week.

[tyler3440]

I mean I get along good with this girl and when we have hung out outside of school I think she likes being around me. but sometimes I think I make some mistakes. Like sometimes I stutter a bit when we talk. Not a whole lot but sometimes. Or sonetimes I'll have a hard time explaining something because I'm a bit nervous talking to her. But most of the time I'm pretty confident talking to her.

[Roose13]

Uuuuuugh, I have the douche chills right now.

I just got a text from a number I didn't recognize asking if this was "Roose." I said yes, who is this and it's some person I used to talk to on the internet like 8 years ago when I was in college who I'm preeeeetty sure catfished me Said she had a dream about me and decided to text me. I'm officially creeped out.

[Nick@Night]

Originally Posted by Roose13

Uuuuuugh, I have the douche chills right now.

I just got a text from a number I didn't recognize asking if this was "Roose." I said yes, who is this and it's some person I used to talk to on the internet like 8 years ago when I was in college who I'm preeeeetty sure catfished me Said she had a dream about me and decided to text me. I'm officially creeped out.

80% chance she shows up at your wedding.

[Roose13]

So the conversation went like this:

Her: "I literally had a dream about you and I didn't even know if this was still your number. I got it from memory. What are you up to?"
Me: "That's a little weird haha. Getting some work done before I head into the office."
Her: "How is that weird? I'm just good at remember phone numbers. A lot of my jobs required remembering numbers. What kind of jib do you have now?"
Me: "I mean the random dream. I'm a reporter. I'm also engaged."
Her: "That's awesome! 2 of your goals came to fruition. Did you move out finally?"
Me: "Like 4 years ago"
Her: "Oh wow. Well obviously I wouldn't know that. I've been out about that long too. Been married going on 2 years now. It's a fun time."
Me: "Cool"
Her: "Yep. Well nice talking to you. Good luck on everything."
Me: "Thanks. See ya."

And I blocked her number. It was really creepy.

[cry_minarets458]

wtf man, at least it wasn't as bad as the thread roger posted a few years ago with the tweaking (?)

[Roose13]

Oh God that was a fucking classic!

[jordanbball17]

Been no contact for 10 days. Bought tickets together for Radiohead in April and decided to check in closer to that time to see where things are at. I'm really struggling. I've come to terms that it was the right decision, but damn do I miss her. Moving out of my apartment and back in with the parents next week. Just really overwhelmed with life right now. 25 is fucking hard!

[Jordan#41]

Haven't been on a proper date since I broke up with my ex this past May. Had one girl over for dinner last month but I'm not super into her. More a friend than anything. Tonight supposed to get drinks with a girl (Bumble date, first one ever). Hoping for the best.

[cry_minarets458]

Originally Posted by Jordan#41

Haven't been on a proper date since I broke up with my ex this past May. Had one girl over for dinner last month but I'm not super into her. More a friend than anything. Tonight supposed to get drinks with a girl (Bumble date, first one ever). Hoping for the best.

just saw this. good luck, man! we still need to get together; life's been super busy, NYC's super busy. i'm sure i'm preaching to the choir. report back on your date

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by jordanbball17

Been no contact for 10 days. Bought tickets together for Radiohead in April and decided to check in closer to that time to see where things are at. I'm really struggling. I've come to terms that it was the right decision, but damn do I miss her. Moving out of my apartment and back in with the parents next week. Just really overwhelmed with life right now. 25 is fucking hard!

Keep you head up Kendall! I moved back into my parents around that age as well (also after a break up). Just know it's temporary and there's nothing wrong with getting back on your feet, in all aspects.

[Nick@Night]

Originally Posted by jordanbball17

Been no contact for 10 days. Bought tickets together for Radiohead in April and decided to check in closer to that time to see where things are at. I'm really struggling. I've come to terms that it was the right decision, but damn do I miss her. Moving out of my apartment and back in with the parents next week. Just really overwhelmed with life right now. 25 is fucking hard!

You're at a good age to bounce back from life taking a dump on your head.

[jordanbball17]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

Keep you head up Kendall! I moved back into my parents around that age as well (also after a break up). Just know it's temporary and there's nothing wrong with getting back on your feet, in all aspects.

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

You're at a good age to bounce back from life taking a dump on your head.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.

Well, the breakup was very friendly until last night. I got an email from her at 1am with a subject line of "unsolicited advice" that said "My grandma died today. Your ghosting strategies are cruel. Don't do this to any future lovers".
First off, we agreed to no contact last Monday, which specifically entailed blocking social media accounts (but not Snapchat initially, as that's only directed towards the recipient). I then made it very clear that I would never ever block her number in case she needed something big. Done deal right? Well a couple days later she deleted me off Snapchat, which I'm fine with. If she needed that, then that's ok. Now I get this email from her, and try to text her but IM blocked. Wtf?

So I responded and told her essentially I'm not ghosting her at all and my number was always open, looks like I'm the one that's blocked.
She responds this morning saying she was drunk and doesn't remember sending the email and that she's hurt that I've blocked her from everything. And that I'm immature and excessive for doing so. Damn guys, it's hurtful.

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by jordanbball17

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.

Well, the breakup was very friendly until last night. I got an email from her at 1am with a subject line of "unsolicited advice" that said "My grandma died today. Your ghosting strategies are cruel. Don't do this to any future lovers".
First off, we agreed to no contact last Monday, which specifically entailed blocking social media accounts (but not Snapchat initially, as that's only directed towards the recipient). I then made it very clear that I would never ever block her number in case she needed something big. Done deal right? Well a couple days later she deleted me off Snapchat, which I'm fine with. If she needed that, then that's ok. Now I get this email from her, and try to text her but IM blocked. Wtf?

So I responded and told her essentially I'm not ghosting her at all and my number was always open, looks like I'm the one that's blocked.
She responds this morning saying she was drunk and doesn't remember sending the email and that she's hurt that I've blocked her from everything. And that I'm immature and excessive for doing so. Damn guys, it's hurtful.

I've never understood ex's that assume you'll remain in contact after a break-up.

It's a free country and if you choose to sever ties with that person, cold turkey, you have every right to do so.

[tyler3440]

Ok so I went to dinner the other night with some friends and the girl I like along with her BF. Yeah I know she has a boyfriend already but I still like her I can't help it. but anyway on the way home I rode with with my girl Best friend.She had no clue I liked this other girl. we're talking on the way back in the car and I'm like "yeah (insert girls name) is a very nice girl blah blah blah." And she's like yeah I think her and her BF aren't going to last much longer. And at that point I couldn't hold it in any longer and I told my friend that I liked that girl and that I was going to ask her out before I realized she had a BF. But yeah she thinks they may break up. This has to be a good sign right? I mean obviously no guarantees but I still have some hope.

[Rodey]

You should just probably find another girl to like instead of wasting your time, Tyler.

[bartender_man]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

Ok so I went to dinner the other night with some friends and the girl I like along with her BF. Yeah I know she has a boyfriend already but I still like her I can't help it. but anyway on the way home I rode with with my girl Best friend.She had no clue I liked this other girl. we're talking on the way back in the car and I'm like "yeah (insert girls name) is a very nice girl blah blah blah." And she's like yeah I think her and her BF aren't going to last much longer. And at that point I couldn't hold it in any longer and I told my friend that I liked that girl and that I was going to ask her out before I realized she had a BF. But yeah she thinks they may break up. This has to be a good sign right? I mean obviously no guarantees but I still have some hope.

Dinner with her and her bf. I'd stay away. Sounds to painful bud. At least I don't think I'd be able to handle it.

[SmoothG]

Originally Posted by Rodey

You should just probably find another girl to like instead of wasting your time, Tyler.

This is the correct answer.

For me, still single going on 3/4 years now and quite happy. Other than a bit of banter with a few girls not much going. At his point I'd like a fwb, but no desire for an actual relationship.

[dmbetc]

I met a really cute girl on Saturday night at a friends party. We talked a bit, nothing super flirtatious but we held conversation. I sent her a Facebook request and then a message when she accepted. I kept it simple and said that it was nice meeting her and I'd hope to see her at more parties in the future. She replied, "Yeah absolutely! It was awesome meeting you as well. I'm actually having people meet up for my birthday next Friday if you're free! I'll shoot you an invite"

To me this is a platonic response, which is fine. But at least I have another opportunity to slide in there.

[bartender_man]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I met a really cute girl on Saturday night at a friends party. We talked a bit, nothing super flirtatious but we held conversation. I sent her a Facebook request and then a message when she accepted. I kept it simple and said that it was nice meeting her and I'd hope to see her at more parties in the future. She replied, "Yeah absolutely! It was awesome meeting you as well. I'm actually having people meet up for my birthday next Friday if you're free! I'll shoot you an invite"

To me this is a platonic response, which is fine. But at least I have another opportunity to slide in there.

Nice Sarah! Keep us posted.

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by bartender_man

Dinner with her and her bf. I'd stay away. Sounds to painful bud. At least I don't think I'd be able to handle it.

It actually wasn't so bad there were more people there then just her and her boyfriend.(that would be awkward AF lol) It was a whole group of friends. I think they are going to break up and so does my friend and she knows her better then I do.. so whatever.

Look eventually I'll find some other girl I like. But in the mean time if they happen to break up I'm asking her out and I think she will go out with me.

[tyler3440]

I'm just not interested in any other girls right now. Idk why I'm just not. I'm constantly looking for potential GFs and I have not liked any other girl since I started liking her.